Fathers

Today is Father’s Day and I would like to share some of my feelings on being a father and about my father. When I first became a father 38 years ago, I had no idea of the joy and sorrow that I would experience as I learned how to be a good father to my children. I have found joy in every new step, every new experience and every new success that my children experienced. I sorrowed with them and for them as they made mistakes, broke bones, failed a test, skinned their knees and wandered from the gospel path.

Now that I have experienced the blessing of being a father, I wish that I had been a better son and not caused so much grief for my father. I don’t think that I was willfully rebellious or disobedient but like most children I did not appreciate what my parents were going through and I did not always show them the respect that they deserved. Like all parents they were trying to learn how to do the best that they could. They had that same manual for raising children, that I had – the example of their parents. Elder M. Russell Ballard spoke of the special relationship between a father and his son:

“You see, we’re all on a journey. Dads are a little further down the road, but none of us has yet arrived at our final destination. We are all in the process of becoming who we will one day be. Fathers and sons can play a critical role in helping each other become the best that they can be.

“I know that father-son relationships are never perfect, but everything I am going to suggest to you tonight is possible if you will put in the effort to make it happen.

“Young men, you are your father’s pride and joy. In you they see a promising future and their hope for a better, improved version of themselves. Your accomplishments are a joy to them. Your worries and problems are their worries and problems.

“Fathers, you are the primary model of manhood for your sons. You are their most meaningful mentor, and believe it or not, you are their hero in countless ways. Your words and your example are a great influence on them. (“Fathers and Sons: A Remarkable Relationship”, M. Russell Ballard, General Conference, October 2009)

My father has been gone for almost twelve years. He tried the best that he knew how to raise his sons. All of us have grown up to be fathers to our own children and now our sons are fathers and the cycle of life continues. What a wonderful experience it is to see your sons grow up to be wonderful, loving fathers. All of this happens in spite of the inadequacies and mistakes we made along the way.

The best place we can look for good examples of fathers is in the scriptures. In the very first verse of the Book of Mormon, Nephi tells us that he was born of goodly parents and that they taught him many things including the goodness and mysteries of God. Nephi and his brothers were taught to keep the commandments and to enquire of the Lord when they needed answers to their prayers. Some of Lehi’s children followed those teachings and some did not.

Another example of a father’s love for his children is found in Mosiah 27. Alma the Younger and the Son’s of Mosiah are among those who are not keeping the commandments and they caused many members to fall away. Because of the prayers of the Prophet Alma an angle appeared to Alma the Younger and the Son’s of Mosiah and called them to repentance. Alma continually prayed for his wayward son and never gave up on him and his friends. We should never stop praying for our children, especially those who have wandered from the gospel.

The best example we have of a father and son relationship is that of our Father in Heaven and His Only Begotten Son, Jesus Christ. When Jesus was baptized and came up out of the water The Father said: “This is my beloved Son, in whom I am well pleased” (Matthew 3:17). Also after Christ was resurrected and appeared to the people here in America, The Father announced him by saying: “Behold my Beloved Son, in whom I am well pleased, in whom I have glorified my name—hear ye him”. (3 Nephi 11:7)

Moses was taught about the plan of salvation and how Christ was chosen to be the Savior of mankind and how Satan rebelled and tried to take the glory away from The Father.

1 And I, the Lord God, spake unto Moses, saying: That Satan, whom thou hast commanded in the name of mine Only Begotten, is the same which was from the beginning, and he came before me, saying—Behold, here am I, send me, I will be thy son, and I will redeem all mankind, that one soul shall not be lost, and surely I will do it; wherefore give me thine honor.

 2 But, behold, my Beloved Son, which was my Beloved and Chosen from the beginning, said unto me—Father, thy will be done, and the glory be thine forever.

 3 Wherefore, because that Satan rebelled against me, and sought to destroy the agency of man, which I, the Lord God, had given him, and also, that I should give unto him mine own power; by the power of mine Only Begotten, I caused that he should be cast down;

 4 And he became Satan, yea, even the devil, the father of all lies, to deceive and to blind men, and to lead them captive at his will, even as many as would not hearken unto my voice.

Christ’s whole purpose was to do the Father’s will and not take any glory to himself. Lucifer on the other hand rebelled against The Father and also wanted all the glory for himself. What are our motives, do we bring honor to our fathers or are we trying to bring ourselves the glory of the world. While teaching the people in Jerusalem Christ taught about how he always does The Father’s will:

19 Then answered Jesus and said unto them, Verily, verily, I say unto you, The Son can do nothing of himself, but what he seeth the Father do: for what things soever he doeth, these also doeth the Son likewise.

 20 For the Father loveth the Son, and sheweth him all things that himself doeth: and he will shew him greater works than these, that ye may marvel.

 23 That all men should honour the Son, even as they honour the Father. He that honoureth not the Son honoureth not the Father which hath sent him.

 30 I can of mine own self do nothing: as I hear, I judge: and my judgment is just; because I seek not mine own will, but the will of the Father which hath sent me. (Matthew 5)

What a great example for us to follow and to teach our sons to do the same. If we want our sons to do our will, we need to have our lives in harmony with the gospel principles. In They Family: A Proclamation to the World it says: “By divine design, fathers are to preside over their families in love and righteousness and are responsible to provide the necessities of life and protection for their families.”

I am grateful for my earthly father as well as my Heavenly Father. I am grateful to be a father and as I strive to do my father’s will I hope my sons will do the same. I am grateful that my sons have grown up and are now great fathers even though I made many mistakes. I invite you to click on the video clip below to watch a father’s day message from the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints call Earthly Father, Heavenly Father.

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Why Doesn’t the Mormon Church have Ministers?

If you are here just to have the question answered, the answer is we do and we don’t. If that satisfied your curiosity then great; if want to know more, then read on.

If you Google the word minister there are two main definitions, a noun and a verb. The noun is used to describe a member of the clergy, especially in Protestant churches and as a head of a government department such as Britain’s defense minister. The verb describes a person that tends to, care for, take care of, look after, administer to, help, or assist someone. (Google definition of minister) An example of this type of a minister is the Good Samaritan from New Testament teachings of Jesus Christ.

Protestant Minister

British Minister of Defense

As a teenager my family attended the Methodist Church in a small Indiana town and there was a minister for our local congregation. The Minister was the person that was hired by the local church to take care of the spiritual needs of the members. He was responsible for all the finances, all the various youth and adult programs, he was the person that gave the sermon during the Sunday services and he was paid a salary to provide for his needs and his families. There were also volunteers who helped teach Sunday School, work with the Youth Programs, helped with the nursery, and many other programs; but the Minister was the one person that was responsible for everything.

In the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints, we don’t have a paid minister, we have a lay clergy. The Bishop is the closest thing we have to a Protestant Minister. The bishop, along with his counselors, is responsible for a ward or local congregation. Bishops are not paid for their work in the church. They continue to work in whatever profession they have in addition to serving as Bishop.

During this past April Conference of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints, President Russell M. Nelson had this to say:

“Dear brothers and sisters, we constantly seek direction from the Lord on how we can help our members keep the commandments of God, especially those two great commandments to love God and our neighbors.

“For months we have been seeking a better way to minister to the spiritual and temporal needs of our people in the Savior’s way. “We have made the decision to retire home teaching and visiting teaching as we have known them. Instead, we will implement a newer, holier approach to caring for and ministering to others. We will refer to these efforts simply as ministering.” (“Ministering”)

In the same conference session Elder Jeffery R. Holland added this plea:

“Brothers and sisters, we have a heaven-sent opportunity as an entire Church to demonstrate “pure religion … undefiled before God”  “to bear one another’s burdens, that they may be light” and to “comfort those that stand in need of comfort,” to minister to the widows and the fatherless, the married and the single, the strong and the distraught, the downtrodden and the robust, the happy and the sad—in short, all of us, every one of us, because we all need to feel the warm hand of friendship and hear the firm declaration of faith.” (Be With and Strengthen Them)

As members of the Lord’s Church we are all ministers in the verb definition of the word. We are to be modern day “Good Samaritans” and look for opportunities to tend to, care for, take care of, look after, administer to, help, or assist our neighbors, co-workers, family, and yes even the stranger that has been left on the side of the road. In other words we are to be as the Savior was to those he ministered to. We should pray each day for the Lord to guide us to someone that we can minister to in some way and then as we go about our normal daily labors we should watch for and listen to the promptings that will come. As we do this we will be surprised at how many opportunities we will have to provide Christ like service to those who we meet. Watch this short video from the ministering.lds.org web site that provides a vision of what ministering is:

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Loving Dandelions

Today in our fast and testimony meeting a young women spoke about how she loves dandelions. She said it was her favorite flower. Most people do not like dandelions and try to get rid of them when they grow in their yard; just yesterday I was out pulling them up and throwing them away. She said that even though the dandelion is hated we should look for the beauty that the flower has and she suggested that it is even useful in salads. She said there are many beautiful flowers and some are loved more than others and some are hated like the dandelions. Heavenly Father created the dandelions and he loves all of his creations.

We live in a world that has many different types of people. There is a variety of races, religions, good people and evil, those that keep the commandments and those that don’t. Heavenly Father loves all of his children – even those that have strayed from his commandments and have fallen off the gospel path. We need to emulate the love that Heavenly Father has and strive to love all his children even those that we feel, like the dandelion, have no place in our lives or should be cast off.

I am reminded of the time that Christ goes from Jerusalem to Galilee through Samaria. Samaria was what was left of the Norther Kingdom of Israel when they were defeated by the Assyrians. The conquerors took the children of Israel and replaced them with others and those that remained intermarried with them and were called Samaritans. The Jews thought that the Samaritans were unclean and would avoid going through the country or even talking to a Samaritan. Jesus chose to go through Samaria on his way to Galilee. He stopped at Jacob’s well and asked a Samaritan women to give him something to drink. The Jewish leaders would never have had a conversation with a women, let alone a Samaritan women. When the disciples found the Savior speaking to the Samaritan women, they wondered among themselves why he was speaking to her (though they did not have the courage to ask him directly).

When the Samaritan women questioned him about the Messiah that should come, Jesus simply said: “I that speak unto thee am he”(John 4:26). She believed and went into the village and told everyone to come see the Christ. Many villagers came and were converted and Jesus spent two days teaching the people of the village.

Why would Jesus go out of his way and go through Samaria and then speak to a women that was living in adultery? Could it be to teach us that all of Heavenly Father’s children are loved by him? We need to have the same love for all of our brothers and sisters, even those we consider to be unclean, sinners, or lost.

The Savior speaking to those in the Americas after his resurrection told them to welcome everyone to their meetings and minister unto them and pray for them “for ye know not but what they will return and repent, and come unto me with full purpose of heart, and I shall heal them; and ye shall be the means of bringing salvation unto them” (3 Nephi 18:30-32).

If you were sitting in church and someone came and sat next to you and they smelled of alcohol or had tattoos or piercings that you did not like what would you do? Would you move or would you introduce your family and welcome them? We know what the Savior would do, he would seek them out and welcome them and teach them as he did the Samaritan women.

There are many of Heavenly Father’s children that think they are the dandelions of the world and have no place and are cast off. We need to have that Christ like love and look for the beauty that everyone has and truly minister to everyone because we “for ye know not but what they will return and repent, and come unto me with full purpose of heart, and I shall heal them; and ye shall be the means of bringing salvation unto them”.

Your thoughts and comments are welcome.