God Doesn’t Do Random

There have been times in my life that have shown me that our Heavenly Father is aware of us and will provide help when needed. Many times that help comes as the Lord sends someone to provide the needed help. On on occasion while living in Ridgefield, Washington I was out of town on business and my wife was home with our three young children and she was pregnant with our fourth. My wife had some clothes in the dryer and she went in to check to see if they were done and she heard a thumping noise. She opened the door to the dryer and saw that the clothes were all bloody and there was a horrible smell coming from the dryer. Somehow while she was putting the clothes in the dryer she was distracted for a moment by one of the children. She did not notice that the cat had jumped into the dryer probably looking for a warm place.

Most people would probably have thrown out the clothes, but not my wife. She knew we did not have the money to buy new clothes. She took the clothes out of the dryer and put them in the bath tub to soak, hoping that she could get the blood out of them. She then took a bucket of water and bleach and tried to clean up the mess in the dryer. She had another bucket that she used to throw up in when the stench got too strong for her. There was a knock at the door and crying she went to see who it was. It was our Bishop. He had the feeling that he needed to stop by and see how we were doing. After some jokes about calling the humane society and knowing easier ways to kill the cat; he was able to calm her down and comfort her. He made some calls and got her the help she needed and things were cleaned up, the clothes were saved and the dryer lasted for many years.

As tragic as that was at the time – we never did tell the kids what really happened to the cat; we now look back and laugh at the thought of my wife kneeling by the dryer trying to clean up the mess all the time trying not to throw up in the other bucket. This and other experiences are cherished reminders of people that have been there when we needed them.

Speaking to the students of BYU-Idaho, Derik Taylor, tells of an experience he and his family had while on a river rafting experience. Their family had thought they were going on a “family friendly” float down the river, but it turned out to be category 2-3 rapids on the Snake River. Derik had experience with white water rafting and when he realized where they were he helped his family prepare for the dangerous rapids called the “lunch counter”. As he was coaching his family on the techniques to use, a couple of kayaks came up close and asked it they knew what they were doing. Derik assured them he knew what he was doing but was afraid of someone falling out of their raft into the river. The kayakers said they would stay behind them to help if they needed it. One of the kayakers paddled up to another outfitter and told the guide what was going on behind them. They were told to follow the outfitter in front that they would guide them through safely. Derik continues:

These people were trained professionals and knew exactly how to run the Hoback. However, they didn’t jump in our boat and take over. They let us do the work and struggle through each rapid. It wasn’t easy but the only swimmer we had was my dear wife Amanda and the only reason she went out was because she was paddling so hard that she let her foot slip out of the pontoon to get more leverage.

As a family, we survived a very trying experience. One we will never forget. Personally, I felt the power of the Holy Ghost guiding my every command. In that moment, I remembered something about rafting that I hadn’t thought about in 15 years. We hit every rapid just as we should and skirted around others in the safest way possible. And in the gospel, I don’t believe in coincidences. Those kayakers were angels sent from Heavenly Father at the right moment to give us the comfort and security we needed. In the end, we didn’t need their assistance in rescuing swimmers, but they provided sound guidance and security knowing that there was someone there to pick us up if we fell. In my family we have a saying that “God doesn’t do random.” Our Father in Heaven knows us so well and He wants us to be happy in this life and come home to Him in the end. He will give us every chance He can to right the ship and make it home. (“Creating a Family Legacy”, Derik Taylor, BYUI Devotional, August 11, 2015).

I do not believe that it was just chance that the people that helped Derik’s family were on the river at the very moment that they needed them, or that our bishop just happened to stop by at the time that my wife needed help. Heavenly Father has promised help when we need it:

For we have not an high priest which cannot be touched with the feeling of our infirmities; but was in all points tempted like as we are, yet without sin.

Let us therefore come boldly unto the throne of grace, that we may obtain mercy, and find grace to help in 
time of need. (Hebrew 4:15-16)

I know that God doesn’t do random. God and his angles are watching over us and that sometimes those angels are individuals that he has prompted to know when we need their help the most.

Your questions and comments are welcome.

We Are All Beggars

We have all seen them – the dirty, tired person on the side of the road with a sign that says that they will work for food. Are you like me that as soon as you see them, you look away so you don’t have to make eye contact? Do you think that he probably makes more money than you do sitting there? That is what happens to me most of the time. I heard a story today about a women that had such an experience.

The Tattooed Homeless Man

He was scary. He sat on the grass with… his cardboard sign, his dog (actually his dog was adorable) and tattoos running up and down both arms and even on his neck. His sign proclaimed him to be “stuck and hungry” and to please help.

I’m a sucker for anyone needing help. My husband both loves and hates this quality in me. It often makes him nervous, and I knew if he saw me right now, he’d be nervous. But he wasn’t with me right now.

I pulled the van over and in my rear-view mirror, contemplated this man, tattoos and all. He was youngish, maybe forty. He wore one of those bandannas tied over his head, biker/pirate style. Anyone could see he was dirty and had a scraggly beard. But if you looked closer, you could see that he had neatly tucked in the black T-shirt, and his things were in a small, tidy bundle. Nobody was stopping for him. I could see the other drivers take one look and immediately focus on something else – anything else.

It was so hot out. I could see in the man’s very blue eyes how dejected and tired and worn-out he felt. The sweat was trickling down his face. As I sat with the air-conditioning blowing, the scripture suddenly popped into my head. “Inasmuch as ye have done it unto one of the least of these, my brethren, so ye have done it unto me.”

I reached down into my purse and extracted a ten-dollar bill. My twelve-year old son, Nick knew right away what I was doing. “Can I take it to him, Mom?”

“Be careful, honey.” I warned and handed him the money. I watched in the mirror as he rushed over to the man, and with a shy smile, handed it to him. I saw the man, startled, stand up and take the money, putting it into his back pocket. “Good,” I thought to myself, “now he will at least have a hot meal tonight.” I felt satisfied, proud of myself. I had made a sacrifice and now I could go on with my errands.

When Nick got back into the car, he looked at me with sad, pleading eyes. “Mom, his dog looks so hot and the man is really nice.” I knew I had to do more.

“Go back and tell him to stay there, that we will be back in fifteen minutes,” I told Nick. He bounded out of the car and ran to tell the tattooed stranger. I could see the man was surprised, but nodded his agreement. From my car, my heart did a little flip-flop of excitement.

We then ran to the nearest store and bought our gifts carefully. “It can’t be too heavy,” I explained to the children. “He has to be able to carry it around with him.” We finally settled on our purchases. A bag of “Ol’ Roy” (I hoped it was good – it looked good enough for me to eat! How do they make dog food look that way?); a flavored chew-toy shaped like a bone; a water dish, bacon flavored snacks (for the dog); two bottles of water (one for the dog, one for Mr. Tattoos); and some people snacks for the man.

We rushed back to the spot where we had left him, and there he was, still waiting. And still nobody else was stopping for him. With hands shaking, I grabbed our bags and climbed out of the car, all four of my children following me, each carrying gifts. As we walked up to him, I had a fleeting moment of fear, hoping he wasn’t a serial killer.

I looked into his eyes and saw something that startled me and made me ashamed of my judgment. I saw tears. He was fighting like a little boy to hold back his tears. How long had it been since someone showed this man kindness? I told him I hoped it wasn’t too heavy for him to carry and showed him what we had brought. He stood there, like a child at Christmas, and I felt like my small contributions were so inadequate. When I took out the water dish, he snatched it out of my hands as if it were solid gold and told me he had had no way to give his dog water. He gingerly set it down, filled it with the bottled water we brought, and stood up to look directly into my eyes. His were so blue, so intense and my own filled with tears as he said “Ma’am, I don’t know what to say.” He then put both hands on his bandanna-clad head and just started to cry. This man, this “scary” man, was so gentle, so sweet, so humble.

I smiled through my tears and said “Don’t say anything.” Then I noticed the tattoo on his neck. It said “Mama tried.”

As we all piled into the van and drove away, he was on his knees, arms around his dog, kissing his nose and smiling. I waved cheerfully and then fully broke down in tears.

I have so much. My worries seem so trivial and petty now. I have a home, a loving husband, four beautiful children. I have a bed. I wondered where he would sleep tonight.

My step-daughter, Brandie turned to me and said in the sweetest little-girl voice, “I feel so good.”

Although it seemed as if we had helped him, the man with the tattoos gave us a gift that I will never forget. He taught that no matter what the outside looks like, inside each of us is a human being deserving of kindness, of compassion, of acceptance. He opened my heart. (By Susan Fahncke, Utah)

What a wonderful experience and a lesson to me that we should not judge a person. How do we know if the person is truly needy or not. Is it our place to judge or should we lend a helping hand knowing that the person will be blessed through our kindness and that we will also be blessed for giving of the bounty the Lord has blessed us with.

In the scriptures we read that King Benjamin said we are all beggars and depend on God for all we have and we need to impart of our substance to others.

 16 And also, ye yourselves will succor those that stand in need of your succor; ye will administer of your substance unto him that standeth in need; and ye will not suffer that the beggar putteth up his petition to you in vain, and turn him out to perish.

 17 Perhaps thou shalt say: The man has brought upon himself his misery; therefore I will stay my hand, and will not give unto him of my food, nor impart unto him of my substance that he may not suffer, for his punishments are just—

 18 But I say unto you, O man, whosoever doeth this the same hath great cause to repent; and except he repenteth of that which he hath done he perisheth forever, and hath no interest in the kingdom of God.

 19 For behold, are we not all beggars? Do we not all depend upon the same Being, even God, for all the substance which we have, for both food and raiment, and for gold, and for silver, and for all the riches which we have of every kind?

 20 And behold, even at this time, ye have been calling on his name, and begging for a remission of your sins. And has he suffered that ye have begged in vain? Nay; he has poured out his Spirit upon you, and has caused that your hearts should be filled with joy, and has caused that your mouths should be stopped that ye could not find utterance, so exceedingly great was your joy.

 21 And now, if God, who has created you, on whom you are dependent for your lives and for all that ye have and are, doth grant unto you whatsoever ye ask that is right, in faith, believing that ye shall receive, O then, how ye ought to impart of the substance that ye have one to another. (Mosiah 14:16-19)

That is a hard lesson we all need to learn. Everything we have been given comes from God to us to be stewards. How can we say to ourselves when we see someone in need that they don’t need our help? Will we try to justify it away saying we are in a hurry, I don’t have any cash, or we will cause traffic problems if we stop to help? President Gordon B. Hinckley, 12^th President of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints, gave this counsel in October 1990:

Let us be more merciful. Let us get the arrogance out of our lives, the conceit, the egotism. Let us be more compassionate, gentler, filled with forbearance and patience and a greater measure of respect one for another. In so doing, our very example will cause others to be more merciful, and we shall have greater claim upon the mercy of God who in His love will be generous toward us. (“Blessed Are the Merciful”, Gordon B. Hinckley, General Conference, April 1990)

In James chapter 1 verse 27 we read:

 27 Pure religion and undefiled before God and the Father is this, To ^bvisit the^cfatherless and ^dwidows in their ^eaffliction, and to keep himself ^funspotted from ^gthe^hworld.

What a great challenge to us. To become unspotted from the world we need to minister to the needs of those who are suffering. We are not the ones to judge if they need our help or not, we just need to be willing to provide the help and leave it to the Lord to determine if it was right.

Will I stop for every person I see with that sign asking for food, probably not I have a long way to go but I will start carrying more cash and when I see someone, hopefully I will be more open to the spirit to direct me to those who need my help and when the spirit prompts I will stop and serve Heavenly Father’s children.

Your comments and questions are welcome.